Category: style

Hot Mess to Hotness in 30 minutes 

Hot mess to hotness in 30 min 
You know when you have a big event, and the night before you think, “I got this”, and then in the morning you don’t?! Well that’s my life most of the time. I can plan my outfit, jewelry, makeup, shoes, hair, and all that but something usually happens where I’m more of a hot mess than hotness. 

A few examples. My wedding night. I’m not going to get drunk and stay up late with all my amazing friends. Bahahaha ya right. Good morning father I’m sorry most of our wedding party smells like red bull vodka. But I still managed to look fabulous. I think being 25 and 125 lbs had something to do with it. 

Also, knowing I was going to be on TV this week, I’m all like “I’m going to workout, do a cleanse, drink lots of water, do a face mask, body wraps, sauna, etc.” Then the night before, eat my weight in Mexican food and wash it down with some queso. Oh yeah. That was my choice last night. Work hard, then get bloated before getting camera ready. 

PS I do NOT think cleanses are safe for moms. At least not this mom. I need coffee and chips ‘n salsa er’ryday. And if there is any type of baked good in this house, consider it gone down my gullet. I had cookies during my cleanse. Like, I eat Cheez-Its when I wrap. 

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Also I’m pretty positive kids know when you have something going on. They know when you have been out on date the night before and they get up at 6am on a Sunday and then they sleep in till 8am on Monday. Sunday nights go like this:
 “I need water!” “I need to go peepee!” “I need a snack!” “I had a bad dream!” “Can I have the iPad or watch minions??” 
“No! I will take all your hot wheels away.” Hello!!! We have a TV interview in the morning and mama needs her beauty sleep. 

It’s just like the book “Go the F to sleep!”

Go the F*** to sleep book

After a night of musical beds we accidentally sleep in and Of course it’s raining and I think I have a pinched nerve in my back. I feel like the princess and the pea. 

Ok for real. I get to my parents’ house dressed like this. 


In a bath wrap and rain boots. Aka Mommy is a hot mess! I got 30 minutes to get camera ready. And go…

We get to the TV station, and let me tell you what! Being back on the other side is waaaaay better. I used to have to set up the interviews and coordinate with people. It was pretty hilarious to see it played out as the interviewee. 

Thankfully the producer is a doll, and our photog is the bomb.com. Funny thing is, we are being interviewed about parenting. Bahahaha says the mommy blogger who says that I love Jesus but I cuss a little. And the mom who has accidentally locked her kid in the car, not once, but twice. Thank you Pop-a-Lock and Tulsa Fire Department. 

Here’s a tip. Don’t let your kids play with your keys as a distraction to get them in their car seats. Anyway, sorry for the side bar. 

It’s pretty funny. We tried to answer the questions, and I felt more like just Douche Mommy than my bad ass self. Can’t wait to see the finished product. KJRH NBC Channel 2 Friday night at 10pm or at KJRH website

It’s the real life ugly stuff we don’t post, but I’m certain we all have these moments all the time. Now instead of stressing out too bad, I think, “OK for real. Blog post!” I need a Mouseketool to get me thru the rest of the week, and it’s called sleep. It’s only Tuesday, and I’m already ready for a massage and our date night Friday night. 

Why do I feel like I can do a zillion things? The calendar and to do lists never end, but this week is CRAY!!! The last days of school, TV interview, lunch, teacher appreciation gifts, MIL in town, out to dinner, SAM’s club, baths and thunder game, go to the doctor, deliver lunch to friends, no nap for baby, swim lessons, dinner, blog post, clean house, dentist, park, B-roll footage at our house. Going to work, haircuts, swim lessons. Friday. Finally date night!!! Saturday workout, birthday party, block party. 

So as you can see, I’m a hot mess. But I try to do it all looking a hotness. Cheers to the super mamas out there. Love you all! 
Xoxo

Just Happy Mommy 

60 day beach body challenge the just happy mommy way😂😝🧀🍩🌮🍪🍕🍦🍻🍟🍿🍾👍🏻

Like always I am keeping it real! So I am going to do something I have been wanting to do since I had my second little boy; a body challenge with before and after pictures and a reveal after 60 days. There is no real diet, cleanse, pills, or gimics. I am doing a collabo if you will, of what I know works for me and trying out a few new things I am curious about as well. I DO NOT WEIGH MYSELF! And if any of my dietician/medical friends are reading this I am sure they will cringe LOL.

I know health and wellness are the keys to life but if that means I can’t eat cookies or have a beer then I’m out. I love smoothies and salads but I also have to have cheezits and cheese almost daily. Trust me I have come a long ways from my TV days of drinking magnums of wine with my coworkers.

Anyway, we are going to the beach in less than 60 days so I am wanting to lose a few pounds. I am going to try a little harder to eat less and workout more. Notice I did NOT say eat better. If there is one thing I know about myself it is that denying me food and drink is a sure fire way to get me to be a hangry biatch and aint nobody got time for that. But I am making time everyday to excercise even if it is to walk to the neighborhood park with the boys.

Bare with me I am pretty scattered and not sure where to start. Instead of giving you a grocery list, some pretty colored containers, telling you how many calories you need, how much tea to drink and what kind of toilet paper to use. I am just going to say everything in moderation. If you are better with a balls to the wall approach and need to follow a diet, cleanse or whatever then do that. I just know I like seeing what other people do and maybe I am weird for sharing this but whatever here it is I really hope you all can laugh along with me because after reading this back I think it’s pretty dang funny. 

I started Sunday February 28 and walked/jogged around my neighborhood

Monday we went for a walk outside

Tuesday we played outside with our neighbors

Wednesday took a day off because 3 days in a row is a lot for me 😝

Thursday walked on the treadmill and did elliptical

Friday Yoga class

Saturday Barre class

Sunday walk to the park

Monday Blast & Furious class

Today Yoga flow

Last night I tried my first “It Works” Body Wrap! I wrapped my stomach hips and tricep flaps. I am so excited to finish the application. One box comes with 4 wraps and you can cut them and place them anywhere from the neck down to help tighten, tone & firm your skin. I saw some results with my first time but I have 3 more to go and you can only wrap every 72 hours. I am drinking lots of water and using the defining gel that came with my kit twice a day and massaging that into my problem areas to get faster results. Stay tuned for my reveal.

http://justhappymommy.myitworks.com/

  
The food part I am sure is controversial because somedays I am healthy and others I am NOT. So here is my food diary for a week. (I always have at least 2 cups of coffee & water in the morning! Also I am trying to workout on an empty stomach.)

I already started backwards with a cheat day on my first day. We had Jimmy Johns after mass and then Arby’s roast beef ya ya ya I know “we have the meats!” When I decide not to cook I let my husband decide where to go because on the weekends I am tired of making decisions. Also I cant remember everything hello I am chasing after 2 kids. And I do the mom thing that you aren’t supposed to do and finish their food. Finally I gave up chips and salsa my #1 fave for lent. 

Thursday: Breakfast burrito, steak & feta salad and like 4 baby snickers from work 

Friday: Spinach chicken salad with strawberries, pecans, tomatoes and blue cheese, 1.5 massive M&M/ chocolate chip cookies from our fave local bagel shop, 

http://oldschoolbagelcafe.com/site/

1 tosada & 2 beef tacos, Dr. Pepper

Saturday: Scrambled eggs with turkey bacon and 2 english muffins with REAL butter, queso, Stella beers and fireball shots. See what I mean healthy then NOT!

Sunday: No doubt fireball and mommying do NOT mix! But we get up anyway put on some coffee, watch Star Wars and eat McDonald’s egg mcmuffin, then 1/2 digornos pizza, and chef salad with ranch and 2 magic cookies for dinner.

Monday Zoe’s orzo salad with pita bread, popcorn & cheezits

Breakfast burrito and green apple and 2 chick-FIL-a sandwiches with chick-fil-a sauce boom! 

So when I say I mix it up I really mean it. I do NOT do the same workouts over and over. I know running gets you in the best shape but I will pretty much do anything but run. Also I make healthy choices and I make junk choices. So judge away. You only live once right?!?!

Now the really crazy part I am going to show myself in a bikini before and after. I am really mortified and scared but I am also strangely motivated by fear. I have learned so much from facing my fears. One of which was starting this blog. So here it goes. 

XOXO
Just Happy Mommy

 

Maintenance: You did not wake up like this!

OK ladies lets talk maintenance. The whole “I woke up like this” is a crock of shit. If you are able to get 10 hours of sleep, drink 75-100 ounces of water a day, exercise, exfoliate, eat perfect, fix your hair, put on makeup, be wrinkle free, bright eyed, pouty lipped with an apple bottom, thigh gap, top knot, mani pedi all while wearing a perfectly pinterested outfit well then my hands are up giving you a high five and a hallelujah! Amen!

The rest of us humans try, but few attain the perfection we see in our favorite celebrities. I love to learn from other beautiful women. I have always like to see what the new fashion trends are, learn new makeup tricks, and keep myself somewhat put together. This last week has knocked me down a peg or twenty, and I have taken a wrong turn down ugly lane. Rocking a swollen face, dehydrated, 3rd eye zit, dark puffy eyes, and a triple chin to boot.

Beauty. I have been thinking about this topic for awhile now. I usually do some type of research on the topic I am writing about just to make sure I have some idea of what I am talking about. This time I did not get far. When I googled beauty routine, I was overwhelmed by the ridiculous amounts of results. “80 Beauty Tips & Tricks Every Woman Needs to Know” was when I stopped

http://dailymakeover.com/beauty-tips/

The article has great tips but 80! Sheeeeit I barely get a shower these days, let alone shave my legs. And to worry about a skin care regimen?

Here’s the thing. Women are not supposed to age, wrinkle, grey, sag, or whine. Yet when men go grey they become a silver fox, gain some moobs, and they are dad bod hot. UM NO! I refuse! I have aged more in 4 years of being a mom than I did drinking and smoking every single weekend while eating Mexican food and never washing my makeup off in my 20’s. Now after breastfeeding 2 babies, gaining 60 lbs twice, and never really sleeping again, I look my age and need to get my maintenance on! I AM NOT COMPLAINING! MOM LIFE & PREGNANCY TAKES ITS TOLL.

I can hear the peanut gallery now. Why don’t you stop blogging and go workout?! Why don’t you put your kids down earlier? You should go to church. How many cocktails are we talking about? Try Botox, Pilates, these 8 face creams etc.

It costs a lot of money to look good. Good genes are priceless and you bet your sweet ass I have some great genes. I don’t know about you, but I think I look better than I really do. Until recently when I looked in the mirror I thought “I know I could always look better, but my clothes fit. Considering my mom lifestyle, it was decent.” The first pic is ZERO makeup with my oldest son  🙂 The second was a month ago after getting my hair done with my gorgeous sissy!

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OH HOW WRONG I WAS! A couple of weeks ago, I had a reaction to my eyelash extensions. My sister is amazing and pays for this lavish unnecessary extravagance, and I have had them on for several months and never had a problem. Anyway I was interviewed for a TV story and we had professional photos taken of my family in our home. After seeing my fat, swollen, round face triple chin on TV and again in this local magazine I was mortified. WTF had I done. Thinking hey “I look good” turned into “HOLY HELL I look like that?!” Instead of feeling excited and empowered my confidence plumeted.

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Kristy DeBOER On Balancing Work & Life copy

Now I think back to those damn eyelash extensions. Sure enough, when I got them done again, this happened! Last Saturday I woke up like this.

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GROSS! Crusty, red, itchy, burning, and swollen shut. Looks like I have pink eye huh? Nope not pink eye because it went away after using Rhoto eye drops, warm compresses, and taking Benadryl.  The price we pay to look like a beat basic bitch.

I have been getting my hair highlighted and colored since I was in high school. As a blonde its a deal made with the hair devil. I used to get my nails done but that was a budget cut since baby #2. I have NEVER bought expensive makeup. I recently started using a nightly face cream that gave me a HUGE third eye sized zit on my forehead. Then there is the physical and mental maintenance, which I think is the most important, but also for me the most neglected. Exercising is KEY.  It makes me happy, a better mom, wife, and person. But when I do not get much sleep, I forgo my workouts for sleep and bravo in order to continue functioning. Ok, my biggest hurdle FOOD/DRINK. I love to eat healthy, and I hate anxiety. But I still eat Taco Bueno and enjoy a cocktail. I drink A LOT of caffeine. Coffee and Dr. Pepper are my #1’s. I am really trying to drink more water. If you have read my blog at all, you know my stance on mental health.

The terrible 3: Depression, Anxiety & social media  – Just Happy Mommy

The terrible 3: Depression, Anxiety & social media 

Finally fashion. Looking cute is considered maintenance to me. Especially since I work part time at my friends totes adorbs boutique, which is pretty much the only place I shop other than Target or online. Check out Posh online

http://poshtulsa.com/collections/all

When you look cute, you feel pretty. And when you feel pretty it shows. You can have it all goin’ on, but if you DO NOT FEEL GOOD it shows. I love the expression “you can’t polish a turd, but you can roll it in glitter”.  I guess what I have been trying to word vomit out the last 1,000 words is we should age gracefully. Keep a young attitude towards life, and explore different options. Just like my mom says, “what is good for some women does not work for us.” As for me, balance is the key. I want to stay true to me, and I think this article from the local magazine Daily Table explains my outlook on food perfectly. Not only is eating a celebration, but so is life so go take a bite!

XOXO
Just Happy Mommy

Kristy DeBoer On Balancing Work & Life

Reasor’s new magazine Daily Table Interviewed Kristy DeBoer On Balancing Work & Life.

One Okie Girl’s Style Evolution

First off, I usually do NOT do mirror selfies so please forgive!

Ok I come from a long line of sophisticated, sexy and well dressed women. I know it is hard to imagine a little girl from Oklahoma with so much style inspiration, but she exists.  My mother is, was and always will be the most gorgeous human being on this planet. Point. Period. Paragraph. 

She is my beacon of light, hope and solace. She is my ultimate style icon. We would play dress up and I would always admire her jewelry. 

My family loves to quote me, “Let’s go shopping! I need everything!”

When I was a little girl my mom said I would only wear dresses with black patent shoes. No pants. No tights. No tennis shoes. I preferred to be naked. And my cute little apples didn’t fall far from the tree. They love to match and prefer diapers and undies. 

I wore a uniform from age 5-17, so accessories and hair were everything!

I would flip my bags and curl my hair everyday and have temper tantrums if my hair sucked.

Going to private school, free dress days were rare and a big deal. Jeans, Doc Martens and an Abercrombie sweater was the usual choice. My mom made my homecoming dress and my senior prom dress. Yes she can sew. She is all sorts of amazing!

Off to College! Back then it was not all about game day couture, skirts and cowboy boots and looking like a hussy at 18. More like black pants, bare midriff, clunky heels and a fake ID.

Main Goals: Get into a sorority, go to as many date parties as possible, don’t get called to standards, collect tee shirts, workout, go to class and and make out with new boys.

After I conquered those, I only lasted a few years in that conformity then I ventured out on my own and learned a lot of valuable life lessons.

Don’t drink and drive. 

Mexi dips and chips, parliament lights and booze is not a good diet or life choice.

Being a bank teller, a size 8/10 and having short hair were all wrong for me.

Having 8 piercings at one time ended up being weird and uncool

(6 ear holes my belly button and my nose)

“Sinead O’Rebellion! Shock me,shock me, shock me with that deviant behavior,”

if you know that quote I love you! If you don’t, well then go rent Empire Records.

And finally, turns out Carrie Bradshaw and Britney Spears are not ideal role models.

I knew who I wanted to be and the life I wanted and thankfully I met the love of my life. He helped me become the real me! The perfect mixture of fun, sexy, classy and traditional with a touch of adventure. I found my confidence when I fell in love.

I found my own style. It’s a mix of Traditional, Funky, Classic, Trendy & Fun.

My fashion confessions

I love knockoffs (gasp) sometimes can’t afford the real stuff or justify it

I have never bought a Lululemon item

My favorite Item is my barefoot dreams Robe

I do go on Pinterest for inspiration

I love Uggs 

Wardrobe Must Haves

Skinny jeans

Black legging pants

Pink pop of color (Lips, purse, etc)

Jean jacket

Classic white tank/tee/button down

Leopard anything

Pearl stud earrings

Black pointed toe pumps

Mix gold and silver

I could go on and on…

I love that I have come full circle after working at a bank, retail in college, televison and now as a SAHM who works retail for fun. I love to play around with clothes and get creative. Fashion and outfits make me happy.

I have many style icons

Jacqueline Kennedy

CoCo Chanel

Audrey Hepburn

Marilyn Monroe

Carrie Bradshaw

Kate Hudson

Britney Spears

Gwen Stefani

Reese Witherspoon

Rachel Zoe

I follow several blogs and fashionistas on social media and each one owns their look. There is something about the female being that likes to feel pretty. Whether it be a black tie affair, date night, lunch with girlfriends, fancy active wear or your robe, when you feel pretty you glow and no one can take that away from you. Own it. Just be Happy!

A couple of famous quotes before I go tonight 

“Playing dress-up begins at age five and never truly ends.” —Kate Spade

“Clothes mean nothing until someone lives in them.” —Marc Jacobs

“Fashions fade, style is eternal.” —Yves Saint Laurent

XOXO Just Happy Mommy

P.S. Mama I love you! You are It, Everything and more.