image from google
a rounded ridge built crosswise into the pavement of a road or driveway to force vehicles to slow down.
The definitions for inanimate objects can also be the synonyms of life.
Speed bump is a blinding example. “Built to force vehicles to slow down.” Wow! Our bodies are our vehicles. A speed bump is designed to slow us down.
I saw an article on the Today Show that said Americans are not getting enough rest. No shit, right?!?! But alarmingly, they are making a direct correlation between the lack of sleep and driving under the influence.
We play musical beds at my house. Gasp!! Co-sleeping! Chill out! After years of living off little and interrupted sleep, you just get used to what you can, where you can. As a parent, I can say that a vast majority of us are not getting enough Z’s. I was laying awake the other night on the “speed bump” of our bed thinking about this post. Our mattress has been replaced 2 times in 4 years because of the huge dips! One side is daddy’s and the other is mommy’s and the high spot in the middle is the speed bump. As I laid there with all 4 of us in the bed, this analogy was too clear for me to ignore.
I have said this before, and I will say it again. We are moving faster than ever. Our MO is faster everything! Fast internet, fast delivery, fast food etc. But are our bodies designed for this life? I have to stop and wonder. Does God put speed bumps in our life to force us to slow down?
All the clichés and sayings about how life goes by in the blink of an eye are flooding my mind as I sit here contemplating, “why so fast?” One of my favorite quotes is from Ferris Bueller’s day off: “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
Could this not be more true or poignant for the Christmas and holiday season? Are we going so fast that we miss what we are supposed to enjoy? Does our list grow ever longer and never ending or completed? And for what? I know that we expect a LOT from ourselves and others, but has it all become too much? Of course, I am asking because I am guilty. Guilty of trying to do it all. Stay at home mom, homeroom mom, allergy advocate, wife, sister, friend, and blogger. My roles seem to go on and on. My sister is back in the hospital and I was going to go see her, then I looked at the clock and it was 8:51pm. I was so tired, I decided to go to bed.
She sent me this text last night…
“You are so silly! You are the best sissy in the world but you aren’t quite superwoman…you are sooo close but not all the way there. You have 3 boys to take care of, and, no offense, they are pretty high maintenance! Lol I’m going to be here whenever you have time okay? I know you would be with me all day and night if you could right?! But you need to take care of your boys and yourself okay? I love you so much.”
Rereading that brings tears to my eyes. Is she right?! I would be so disappointed and sad if I were her. She is one of the most important people in my life. Yet, I’m more concerned with getting my kids down and working on my graphic for my blog giveaways. I’m trying to do too much. But no one is putting this on me, except me!!!
Enter SPEED BUMP. Slow down and focus on what’s important!!
Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes is called empathy. I fear that empathy has become a long lost and almost extinct ability.
The best of intentions don’t mean shit when it’s too late. We have to do what is most important. Not all of the stupid bullshit on my list. I think the extras are created to distract us from what we really need to do. Stop. Slow down. Be present. It is the best gift after all.
I pray for strength to do the right thing, and teach my babies the true meaning of Christmas. That it’s being with the ones who mean the world to you. Even tho I have a calendar full of events, appointments, dinners and the rest, I’m not helping myself by adding more and more to my plate.
We need to slow down when life hands us the speed bumps. Instead of trying to run over them quickly, WE need to stop and reflect why is this obstacle in our way. Is this a moment to learn, teach, or reflect?
I hope we can all take some time to hug the ones we hold most dear. Share a meal, a hug, or a laugh, and be aware that it’s ok to slow down and accept the speed bumps in our lives.
Just Happy Mommy