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Makeup tutorial VLOG


I’m so excited I just finished filming my first VLOG Video Blog a makeup tutorial. I had so much fun doing it! Here are a few little out takes and previews. Stay tuned the whole video is coming soon to my YouTube channel! Be sure to follow me on Instagram and Snapchat

Xoxo 

The D Word

No I’m not talking about the “5 D’s of Dodgeball: Dodge, duck, dip, dive and dodge.”

Dodgeball Wikipedia 

When you are married the D word means Divorce. And just like many curse words we whisper when we say it, like it will have less of an affect. We never used the D word before having kids. It is not an option. The past four years have been some of the best, yet hardest and stressful of our lives.

Counting back the years we have shared 12 amazing years together and we will celebrate 9 years of marriage in 2 weeks! Whoop whoop! (This is one of our engagement pics from August 2006. )

I remember him sending me hot pink roses on my college graduation day because he had to work at the car lot on Saturdays. We were so in love, the blind, no fear, no looking back, this is it, kind of love.

Even the happiest of marriages have peaks and valleys. It’s called the rollercoaster of love for a reason right?!?! We never lack passion, that’s for sure! But after going through many negative relationship cycles over the past few years we decided we needed a professional tune up. So we went to marriage counseling.

Here’s the deal, we know we love each other and we do NOT want to argue anymore. So in order to get back to the love that once came so easily, we are learning emotionally focused couples therapy. EFCT

I didn’t hesitate to share this with y’all because I made a promise to always keep it real. It worked! It’s been a few months now and honestly it’s the best decision we have made since having our boys and saying I do.

We fake it till we make it a lot in motherhood. But that shit don’t fly in marriage. Sometimes you need to step outside and ask for help. I don’t think it is a sign of weakness but of strength. My husband also agrees and he reads all of my blogs before I post them.
I think it’s refreshing to know when people admit to having issues. I think it makes us feel human. Don’t get me wrong I admire people who have a happy, healthy marriage. But what we were doing and dealing with wasn’t going down the yellow brick road. Also 12 years together is a really long time!

Thankfully we weren’t doing that bad but We needed to unscramble our priorities. God, spouse, kids, work, family, friends, money and the rest. We had it all mixed up. With everything we have endured over the last few years and explaining our situation, sitting on the shrinks couch, it was clear we needed this time together and to make an investment in us.

There are only so many hours you can cry to your mom and your best friends until they are like “I love you but y’all need a third party unbiased helper.”

I grew up old school and like most of my family and friends we keep marriage and family issues secret. Its like  “nun ya nun ya biznass.”

Well I’ve got a news flash! We live in a new century and we are downloading the latest version of marriage. The world is faster and more stressful than ever before.

Even going to the beach, on vacation, to slow down was amazing, but our problems were still waiting for us when we got home and dumped the white sand out of our shoes.
After taking the first steps, calling, making an appointment and going together we were already better connected.

The last couple of months have been amazing. We got lost and now we are getting back on the path. The love we have for each other and our children is worth fighting for.  We will never feel ashamed or apologize for working on ourselves or our marriage.

I hope that by sharing our journey, we can inspire other couples, who might be experiencing a road block, to get a marriage tune up and seek some counseling. Even tho smiles on social media can paint the perfect picture, things are never perfect. With faith, hope and love we can stand strong. I think this wedding anniversary will be the best one yet! I love you babe. Thank you for always loving me for better or worse. And thank you for taking care of me and the boys.

Xoxo

Just happy mommy

Skin Testing for Food Allergies

I decided to document our first round of skin testing for food allergies on our son. I was very afraid and I could tell my energy was radiating onto him. Once the nurse came in, he was crying and hugging me tight. Poor guy has scrubs and white coat PTSD. I talked to him and assured him he was safe and that Mommy was there and nothing bad was going to happen. “I love you baby, you are so brave and it is going to be ok.” His blood was tested when he was 9 months old and revealed his extreme food allergies which is the new normal for us.

Now he is 20 months and he will have skin tests to see how things are now. The pediatric allergist will not test him for peanuts or dairy during this time. The videos below are not bad. I took them to show other moms what to expect. I had in my mind that it was going to be a lot of screaming and crying and it was not that.

There is a histamine that is like a misquito bite and a control which is sterile water

Then down the left side of his back they tested for

Egg Yolk

Egg White

Soy

Oats

Wheat

And on the right side they did 9 tree nuts which included

Almond

Pecan

Cashew

Coconut

Pistachio

Hazelnut

Brazil Nut

Black & English Walnut

Below there is a time lapse, a video and photo to show his tests. 

YouTube Time Lapse

YouTube video Skin Testing

The results showed that his allergy to Eggs has gotten worse, he is totally clear of his Soy allergy (which is good bc we have been eating Soy) his Oats are the same, his Wheat allergy is still present but looks better and we will do a food challenge with Cream of Wheat in 6 months. He is totally clear to eat Corn & Coconut (again very good bc we already eat that). Most of the tree nuts he did react to and due to his extreme Peanut allergy we have decided to keep him NUT FREE! We continue to have a dairy free diet as well.

I hope that this sheds some light on what skin testing is and how it works. Of course no parent wants this for their kid but if it helps us learn more and move forward in overcoming these food allergies we are all for it. For more information please visit these websites.

FOOD ALLERGY RESEARCH & EDUCATION

Allergy Clinic of Tulsa

WEB MD Food Allergy & Intolerance

XOXO

Just Happy Mommy

We all bleed the same color

We all bleed the same color. This statement means something more to me than ever before. Like many Americans, I love my Alma mater. And in Oklahoma, people either bleed crimson or orange. Even though we like different schools, we are all the same. We bleed the same blood!

It reminded me of one of our favorite books to read to the boys, “Around the World We Go!” by Margaret Wise Brown. 

It has different languages and beautiful illustrations.  It teaches that we all smile in the same language, and the more we work together the better off we will be. Accepting and embracing our differences is an integral part of learning how to be a respectful human being. I can’t resist an opportunity to teach my boys life lessons. It is one of my favorite things about being a mommy. If we do not teach, tell, explain, and experience things with our kids, then how will they know the ways of the world?

If there is one thing you need to know about us Okies, it is that we stick together no matter what color flag we wave. We take pride in helping one another. Literally, when the winds come sweeping down the plains and tornadoes take lives, we unite and rebuild. Just like communities that need help rebuilding, there are children in need of blood to help rebuild their broken bodies.

I was recently approached to team up with the Oklahoma Blood Institute, and this was an opportunity I jumped at! We can save lives if we choose to donate our most precious resource, our blood. We know it is important, but do you give blood? I honestly have only donated twice in my life, and I need to set an example for my boys and donate more.

ONLY 38% of Oklahomans can donate blood

and

ONLY 10% of those people actually donate.

Plus

blood donated by Oklahomans stays in Oklahoma!

OBI horz

Sadly a few months ago a boy in our school community was diagnosed with cancer. On February 11th, Jake was diagnosed with a type of Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma called Burkitts Lymphoma, stage 4. It is the most aggressive form of cancer but has an encouraging survival rate of 75-90% after 5 years remission. His mother was my son’s teacher last year, and they have 4 children. Her other son is in the same class with my son. His mom started this blog to keep everyone infomed of what is going on with Jake and his cancer treatments. Here is one of her recent posts:

img_0276“Jake is on day 6 of this round of chemo. He is becoming increasingly tired and tummy sick, but the effects of the chemotherapy are remaining manageable.

His immune system is continuing to fall away, expecting to be at a zero tomorrow. Then, we will pray for continued quiet and boring days. Days full of bedside word searches, movie marathons, and take-out requests.

Jake’s chemo plan intends for his immune system to remain depleted for the next 15 days, a time we will all be holding our breath. The risks are endless during that time…but so is the hope.”

Please click the link below to read more about their journey…

Jake’s Play Book

Reading the email from the head of school about Jake’s diagnosis caused a flood of tears from parents. One of the best parts of being part of a small tight knit school is that we all know each other, and we are like family. The entire school has banded together to pray, help, and lift this family up. The philosophy and educational approach they teach at Riverfield School is called Reggio Emilia. Reggio Emilia’s tradition of community support for families with young children expands as the collective responsibility. Parents are a vital component to this philosophy. Parents are viewed as partners, collaborators, and advocates for their children.

Riverfield Country Day School

Reggio Emilia Approach

Jake has had several blood transfusions. In order for him to get the blood he needs to help him beat this cancer, we must donate blood. The Oklahoma Blood Institute (OBI) heavily relies on volunteers  in Oklahoma to help those in need. OBI provides every drop of blood for patients in 90% of hospitals in Oklahoma. Seeing the struggle, pain, and stress this family has endured while keeping positive and smiling should be a compelling enough reason to donate. If you need another reason, there are many benefits for donors. For example, a health screening that includes cholesterol and blood pressure checks is required. Donors are also eligible for incentives such as FREE zoo passes and various giveaways.

Hey, Parents, did you hear that?! FREE STUFF! We need to get people to understand the importance of donating blood to those in need in our community. We can set an example for our children. None of us know the path we will take. That is up to GOD. But if we find ourselves or our children in need of blood, you know you would go to the ends of the Earth to get it for them.

I need to back up what I am preaching, so I went to donate. You can click the link below to find a community donor center. If you would, please tell them you read this, and that “Just Happy Mommy” encouraged you to donate. Many affected would appreciate it.

Oklahoma Blood Institute

Give Blood. Save Lives. YouTube Video

If you feel touched by the Flowers family and Jake’s story the family has a account set up if you would like to donate to help them with their medical expenses. Any form of positive energy is welcomed to help them on this tough road to beat his cancer.
Together as a stong community we can help those in need, through blood donations to OBI, dontations to the Flowers family or prayers of healing. 
Go in your child’s room and watch them sleep. Look at their sweet, innocent face as they breathe in and out and their minds dance off to dream land. Stop and cherish this moment. We only have one life and remember we all bleed the same color.
XOXO
Just Happy Mommy
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I’m sorry I’ve seemed to have lost my mind 

So I was all excited to lose some extra lbs and tighten and tone my mom bod. I wanted to document the journey like a real blogger, but the last 3 weeks have been like a binge eating, cheat meal marathon, carb load feast. And with with zero miles logged. Honestly you can blame it on everything in life lately. Exhaustion, depression, and the fact that I have zero F’s to give. I have survived on coffee, Dr Pepper, baby bell cheese, and boxes of left over hideaway pizza for nearly every single meal for over a week now.


When your babies are sick, your world stops and you become everything to everyone. It’s like newborn/puppy phase but with screaming sleepy sick minions. My sweet little angel nuggets both have terrible allergies. Since it’s spring in Oklahoma, that means break out the checkbook and the nebulizer. We have been to see our awesome doctors more than a few times over the last month.

 Needless to say, I am overly cautious and I need the copay reassurance that we do not have RSV or pneumonia. With those doctor visits comes extra togetherness and less mama time. I will walk into a pool of flames for my kids, but hot damn, it’s hard when they are sick and then tag team my ass with the sleeping edition of musical beds.


I have exercised once since my post, and that was yoga. No joke I’m either too tired, can’t take sick kids to the gym, or I’d just rather have a beer and watch basketball with pizza and wings. In this house, we are Sooner born and Sooner bred. And when we die, we will be sooner dead. Boomer!!! Final 4!
Im sorry I seemed to have lost my mind. I bounce from subject to subject like a boy jumping in a bounce house. I wake up in the middle of the night and worry. I want to live a long time, but I feel the stress and unhealthy choices I make have taken a toll on me. I feel ancient. My neck and shoulders feel like I have an evil biting elephant hyena on my neck. Like, 33 never looked so wrecked. I have never been more ready for a vacation in my life! Dentist chair selfie

I have been following and getting more followers on Instagram lately. and while it is fun, I am also realizing that I need to step up my perfect photo game. Unfortunately, I have zero sponsors for my blog. So if any one of the many brands that I use and love want to hop on the just happy mommy train lets go!
I am still upping my insta game so I need some selfie tips. How do you get the over head shots of your entire outfit? Do you have an assistant? Oh, cool, bc my assistants are 4 and 18 months. A selfie stick makes me look like I’m holding an awkward metal pole to hide my triple chin.

  I also need to frequent more flower shops because everyone of those flower pictures I do give a heart to. Finally, and most importantly, how do I get people to give me cute clothes and shoes and bags and accessories?!?! Need the info, need the swag. I am clearly so late to the social media and blogging world, it’s a joke. I didn’t join this cult until fairly recently, but I embrace it with open arms.
I’ve been looking at getting some new swim suits, but I can’t get myself to a store or follow through on the “purchase” button of the online checkout. Mama needs a new swim suit ok?!?!
I love sleep. I love sleep more than food, sex, and wine. Ask my four year old what my favorite thing to do is, and without hesitation, he says “Sleep!” Boom! Can I get an Amen?!

So since I have been torturing toddlers with syringes of white, pink, clear, and purple medicines, cleaning up their puke, and wiping asses, we find entertainment in bathing and watching waaaaaaay too much tv, Netflix, vudu etc. The husband says we are out of towels. I don’t know what I’m wearing to work tomorrow. Laundry and dishes are overflowing.
Next thing I know, my sister is being admitted into the hospital, we are completely out of diapers, and our water has just been turned off by the city. I’m cleaning up vomit and rabbit turds, and bleaching the bathtub for the 3rd time in a week because little brother is potty training and decides to take his diaper off constantly. He pees outside and thinks the tub is now a toilet. He started this all on his own. My mom has told us our little brother was potty trained at 18 months and I always thought she was exaggerating but it is possible. Siblings. Monkey see, monkey do.

So fast forward to Easter, and it’s a weird day. Usually we are all together. This time last year our baby was being baptized. My brother and his girlfriend were here, and we were celebrating.

 This year we had our usual activities and meals, but it wasn’t the same. We missed Aunt Sissy. All this joking around with my blog above and saying how tough it is to workout, Instagram followers, and all that bullshit goes out the window when it comes to my sissy.

 She is fighting for her life. She is the strongest person I know. And for me to bitch about not working out and taking care of two perfect little babies really puts things into perspective. I want to fix her. I want to help her. I want to give her the life she so desperately wants and deserves to live. She is so private but please keep her in your thoughts and prayers. We all cope in different ways. Running, eating, drinking, denying, sleeping, crying, shopping, praying, and thinking positively. Trust me. I’ve tried them all, and I’m done. I want my sissy back.

Xoxo

Just happy mommy

Aunt Sissy Video

7 reasons Mommy is a super hero 

DO NOT question a Mommy. She knows what is best. There are several reasons why one should NOT doubt a mother but these are mine 

1 Motherhood is the most important institution

2 Motherly instincts are always right.

Im talking primitive shit here people. When I was pregnant with our first son, I would get up to pee in the middle of the night and I would turn the bathroom light on. My husband mentioned this to me because I never turned the light on before. I asked my OB and he said that it is a mothers instinct to check her surroundings. The Mama Bear instincts are real and can be stronger and more present in different mothers.

When you question a mom it causes her to question herself and her motherly instincts. Trust us moms, we do enough of that on our own, every second of every day of every year of our childrens lives. I suffer from anxiety, worry and possibly hyprocondria from time to time. For example my neck has been bothering me so instead of going to the chiropractor I just jump straight to the conculsion that I have a golf ball sized tumor in my neck. For no reason other that I am a loon.

When it comes to my boys I would have to say I flip out over everything. I had gotten better until we had a few recent ER visits and ambulance rides. So I get in fight or flight every time someone spikes a fever, coughs or vomits. All of which have been happening for almost 2 weeks straight. Spring break sucked a big turd! My older son has terrible allergies then was diagnosed with a virus and everyone knows viruses are bullshit, it has to take its couse. Which translates to good luck mommy!

3 Do what she says: 

A mother is ALWAYS right!

Usually I will ask my husband and mom questions then go and do the exact opposite of what they think. Often times I will listen and think everything is fine and that I am over reacting. Then I say NOPE these are my babies and I know them better than anyone in this world. Mama knows what to do! Do you think he is ok? Should I take him to the doctor? When I am struggling if I should take my child to the doctor I would say  99% of the time I am glad I did and 80% of the time it is for a real good medical reason. Today was one of those days. I decided to take our younger son to get checked for RSV. He has all the symptoms, coughing and wheezing, runny nose, loss of appetite, restless sleep, slight fever etc. He has also been coughing so much he has been vomiting. It is the saddest thing ever. Sure enough when I took him in he was breathing fast 60 per minute and had tight chest contractions. We administered an albuterol breathing treatment and within 10 minutres he was a completely different child. He is on steriods and antibiotics for a right ear infection and we will do breathing treatments every 4 hours.

4 Moms are super heroes

Once you have the diagnosis the real work begins!

You will be bribing to administer medicine and breathing treatments. Struggling to get them to eat and one already looks malnurished. And go ahead and F$%& that schedule and no screen time over spring break. BAHAHAHA yeah right. Screen time it up in this biatch. There aren’t many things worse to a little boy than telling him he cant go outside. And the reason is the air makes you sick baby.

To survive on such little sleep, extreme stress and malnutrition is amazing to me. Mothers do NOT get the recognition they deserve. We do this because it is in our DNA to keep our babies healthy, happy, thriving and beaming! Remembering everything becomes extremely difficult. My genius mother suggested I start keeping a journal of who ate what, pees, poops, and who had which medicine, what time, how much. When was the last breathing treatment.?

I have been trying to find a clever way to explain my sleeping patterns the last 2 weeks and it goes something like this. I was always terrible at math and especially word problems. Hence the journalism degree LOL.

Mom and Dad (M&D) boy #1, boy #2, couch and recliner. Starts out M&D, then #1 comes in and M goes out. M goes to #1’s bed and then #2 wakes up. M & #2 go to the couch. Then #2 goes back down & M goes to #1s bed. See how D didn’t move haha.

Or M&D plus #2, then #1 runs in and its M, D, #1 & #2 all 4 in 1 bed! M & #1 go back to #1 bed. Then #2 starts crying. #2 back down and M goes to the couch.

 I always have the baby monitor and my iPhone in the robe pockets like a cowboy huslters his gun and knife. Ready for action. Ready for the fight.

There are so many different variations of our sleep patterns and habits. All of which are controversial and I do NOT care. If we are all sleeping that is all that matters. When we are well we can work on schedules and staying in our own beds.

5 A mommy who has had a full night of sleep is unstoppable.

We make all mistakes and don’t worry mommy guilt is punishment enough 

A mom with NO sleep is mombie or a mom zombie. Add a sick kid, messy everything and stress and we just gets thru the day on coffee, Dr. Pepper, cold pizza, dry shampoo and deoderant.

Yesterday we came home from the doctor and I was running on fumes, literally. I went to turn on the water and drip drip nothing. WTF!?!?!? I forgot to pay the water bill and our city turned the water off!!! OMG CALL DHS, WORST MOM EVER!!! I quickly got on the phone paid the bill and then realized we were completely out of diapers. SERIOUSLY!!! CALL THE COPS! I need to be put away! Put away to bed!

Heres the deal we have autopay and auto delivery on diapers from the HONEST COMPANY but we recently got new debit cards and I didnt bother to change the experation date or the new CVS code so no water and no diapers. IDIOT!

Love your Mother like she loves you

I have to stop often to remind myself how lucky I am. We all have struggles, challenges and pain that we dont want to share. Moms have to hold it together. My mom is the best at this and I take after her. Although we all break at some point. My sister was also recently admitted into the hospital for extreme dehydration. She does not like me talking about her health issues on my blog but any and all prayers and positive vibes for my sissy are welcomed.  I was overwhelmed to say the least. Trying to lean on God and keep positive. I started to have chest pains and went into a panic attack.

So my sweet husband took over and I laid down to relax. After awhile I logged onto Facebook and saw my best friend and uber talented photo/videographer posted a link to a video she produced for the Down Syndrome Association of Central Oklahoma.

Down syndrome awareness video 

I stopped and watched the 15 minute video and not only was it awesomely well done but also very informative and helped put things into perspecitive. All moms have something going on. Allergies, Down Syndrome, Autism or even a strong willed little one.

7 Mothers make the world go round. 

I love my mama with all of my heart and soul. I am so thankful for all my friends who are moms in some form or another, human or fur 🙂 We must encourage each other and tell each other we are doing a great job! Remember that your mom cleaned up your puke, wiped your butt and comforted you when you were sick.  I found this little story and I loved it so much I wanted to share it with you:

“A little boy forgot his lines in a Sunday school presentation. His mother was in the front row to prompt him. She gestured and formed the words silently with her lips, but it did not help. Her son’s memory was blank. Finally, she leaned forward and whispered the cue, “I am the light of the world.” The child beamed and with great feeling and a loud clear voice said, “My mother is the light of the world.” While Jesus is the true light of the world, you mother can be the light which will lead your children to Christ.”

And a few wonderful quotes about Mothers:

God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.

–Jewish Proverb

All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.

–Abraham Lincoln

XOXO

Just Happy Mommy

 

The terrible 3: Depression, Anxiety & social media 

You know what the meanest things you can ask someone who is suffering from depression?

Are you still taking your meds? Regularly?

Are you going to see your therapist?

Are you ok?

You are crazy.

Wow. Really?! Pretty sure those are the worst things to say or ask someone who is struggling. (Obviously not coming from your doctor or trusted family or friends.)

Depression is a mental health condition. Like any other infection or disease it requires medical diagnosis and treatment. But when someone admits they need help and seeks treatment that should NEVER be thrown back into their face. Would you dare tell an anorexic person to put down their food or call them fat?! Hell no!

When I chose to share my blog and explain the title Just Happy Mommy I was putting it out there that I suffered from post partum depression and now both depression and anxiety. And after watching NBC Nightly News tonight and their coverage on depression. I decided I should expand on it.

http://www.nbcnews.com/health/mental-health/check-all-adults-depression-especially-new-moms-panel-says-n504816

They are calling for all adults to have a mental health check for depression, especially in new moms.

After having our first son we had a lot of MAJOR changes going on in our home life but I got thru it after a few months, so it was situational. The second time around I knew something was off. I never had evil thoughts of hurting myself or my babies. I just knew I wasn’t myself so I called my doctors and we started a low dose anti depressant. It’s not like moms choose this, quite the opposite. We feel embarrassed and broken and disappointed in ourselves.  Also I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me. I’m not fishing for compliments. I know I am not a celebrity who can bring real awareness but I’m a mom not a lot of people would think has these issues. I am a happy person. I love life. But I needed help and that’s ok.
There are many levels and types of depression. Major, bipolar, seasonal, psychotic, Post Partum, Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) and Situational Depression. http://www.m.webmd.com/depression/guide/depression-types

The stigma of depression sucks! It doesn’t mean that every depressed person is manic or bipolar or suicidal or dangerous. Usually a combination of medication, therapy exercise and life changes can do the trick. A sorority sister introduced me to a great website and movement called WE GET DEPRESSED. Bringing awareness and acceptance to depression.

http://www.wegetdepressed.com/


There is NO LOOK of depression. It can affect anyone, at any age and is very serious but there is help and hope. I love the quote from Clueless when Cher says “She’s a full on Monet. From far away, it’s OK, but up close, it’s a big old mess.” And “Some of us are just better at hiding it, that’s all,” from The Breakfast Club.

Painting a pretty picture of what you think other people want to see is a job in and of itself. Feelings of inadequacy and even failure can haunt even the strongest person.  There are studies showing that social media use can feed anxiety and increase a persons feeling of inadequacy. When we go on social media sometimes it is not a fun thing because we see things we want or don’t have or realize we weren’t included. Sometimes we are not in the mindset of “oh isn’t that great!”, instead we think “FU!” So until we can truly love ourselves, our situation and own it without fear of rejection or giving zero Fs we will be at the mercy of the LIKE button.

We are still learning this new world of social media and the affects it has on us. IMHO I think that social media can pose a threat to our mental health and well being, while at the same time it can be POSITIVE, SUPPORTIVE, EDUCATIONAL & FUN! I struggle with “is this safe?  fun? or should I just quit participating all together?”

Last year I gave up social media for Lent which is a Christian observation where you choose to give up something or challenge yourself for the 40 days leading up to Easter because Jesus went 40 days and nights fasting in the desert and being tempted by the devil. At first it was hard then when Easter came I did not know if I wanted to rejoin the cult.

It has become part of our daily lives whether we admit it or not. Until getting a job in TV out of college I did NOT have Facebook. It was not until after we got married that my husband and our friends started to participate. At first it was super fun and cool then it started to go political, rude and annoying. People use social media for so many reasons; business, family connections, social networking, education, advice, etc. it is like the new yellow pages. When used properly and positively it is great, when used as a way to bully people who commit suicide it is REALLY BAD!

How do we protect our kids? I have put myself and my kids in a semi dangerous place because I have chosen to put our lives online. My sweet, innocent, little nuggets who may live to resent me and my online sharing choices. The reason I started my blog was to share my life experiences in hopes of connecting and helping at least one person. I am thrilled to say that I have accomplished that. But should I stop sharing my real life stories of being a mom of 2 kids? And stop posting pictures of my adorable kids for fear that some crazy ass is going to try to come kill me and my family because of what I posted online? To answer your question prolly. But will I? Prolly not. The struggle is real. There is no way of controlling social media as long as we live in America and the Constitutional 1st Amendment rights protect our freedoms of speech and press.

So from someone who suffers from depression, anxiety and is addicted to social media I urge you to either enjoy the ignorance is bliss mentality or get scared out of your mind because we are all dialed in and obsessed!

Xoxo

Just happy mommy

 

#reallife 

I have gotten a lot of positive feedback about my blog posts. Mostly “thank you’s” for keeping it real. Ya’ll said you wanted real so here it is…Somedays are solid “Mommy is a bad a$$” victories, others are miserable, “is it nap/bed time yet?” failures and lots of mixures in between…

I AM NOT COMPLAINING! I AM KEEPING IT REAL!

Often times I wake up in the morning to a wreck of a house. Sink full of dishes, loads of laundry on the couch, living room floor covered in toys, bathtub still full of water from last nights bath (seriously I let out the water at 3am when I wake up with a sick baby or can’t sleep) and the kitchen floor oh my gawd disgusting and embarrassing. I wish I was one of those OCD people who can’t go to bed unless the house is picked up but I AM NOT. I think I am 3 moms wrapped in one beautiful pink haired package. Somedays I am the SAHM that lives in her robe all day, warms up the same cup of coffee until noon, colors, plays light sabers, breaks up fights, while trying to tackle the chores of the day and failing to complete one task.

Somedays I am the mom that lets my kids watch PBSKids, Disney Jr. and Nick Jr. almost all day long on any and all devices and we eat marshmallows for breakfast and IF we leave the house it is going to the carwash, Starbucks or Sonic drive thru. Or I am the go to work mom and feel like a chicken with my head cut off hustling and bustling to get everyone where they need to be and and my mom watches the boys and cleans my house, folds the laundry and does the dishes while I go to work a couple days a week. My mom is a superhero!

On a good day we might make it to the gym or have a play date in the morning and come home and eat lunch and pray for dual naps which only happens about once a week, if that. Then I can shower, watch some Bravo on the DVR or start dinner. But if both kids are asleep you bet your a$$ I am going to take a nap too. Hello we still have the witching hour, dinner, bath and bedtime. I need to plug in and recharge these old mama bones.

I honestly cook/prepare or microwave 18 meals a week for 4 people. I love to cook. I hate to clean up the mess. Dishes are my arch nemisis. Once they get done its time to eat again. We try to only eat out a few times a week and that is usually a drive thru. Plus the fact that handling 2 kids at a restaurant, one of which is literally allergic to Earth and air, is NOT worth the s#$%y $8 glass of chardonnay for my toddler to grab and spill it all over the table. I prefer to poor my own mommy pop whilst cooking dinner, doing squats and dancing to “pump up the jam” with the boys waiting for daddy to walk thru the door.

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I bounce from one extreme to another. I am either making gluten, dairy, egg  and nut free pancakes and sausage covered in organic maple syrup for breakfast, then starting a pot roast in my dutch oven to cook all day or driving thru Wendy’s, Chik-Fil-A, Bueno or Quik Trip. Hey we do the best we can. Somedays I totally rock and make organic, grass fed, cage free, allergy friendly meals and others my boys eat fast food kids meals.

Today we stayed in our PJ’s and my beloved robe all day long. We watched way too much TV and did not leave the house. The boys helped me bake allergy friendly brownies and I made dinner and took food pics for an upcoming blog post. Last weekend we decided to freshen up our kitchen and we found some great deals from Marshalls and Target. My hubby hung new curtains and I got a couple of new rugs for the house. I am a rug freak. I have bought and thrown away way too many rugs.

 The reason I bring this up is because we have not had these things in our home for 5 days and tonight our older son spilled his frito chili pie all over our new rug!!!

  The saying you can’t have nice things when you have kids is 100% accurate.  And I kid you NOT, the baby pi$$ed all over the new rug in his nursery right after bath tonight!!! Ahhhh this is the real stuff people do not post on Fakebook. Or when your kid poops on the floor and hands it to you and your spouse says what is that and you both scream s#$%!!! Yep, that happened on Sunday.

But seriously I know how lucky I am that I get to stay home and watch my babies grow up. I love literally watching them grow. When they wake up in the morning or from a nap and they have changed. I will never get these days back. I never understood the saying “babies don’t keep” until recently. Looking back on these almost 4 years of motherhood it has been a beautiful blur of hugs, kisses, tears, fights, bills and I love you to the moon and backs.

 As long as they are happy, healthy, growing and glowing I am doing my job. I am not saying I do not want a clean house, the perfect matching seasonal outfits for my kids and my 22 year old sweet apple bottom back. I try really hard. But sometimes I have to stop. Stop and light my new bath and body works candle, pour a mommy pop, draw a bath and put on Adele and thank God for today and hope that tomorrow is a beautiful mess with the 3 ones I love the most.

Always keeping it real!
XOXO
Just Happy Mommy